Signs you may be dating an alcoholic
They’ve inspired me to push through the more difficult times in my life when my own addiction problems and harmful thinking manipulate me into hopelessness. Her work has been published by Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan and nudie blog Suicide Girls.
So this is my odd love letter to the alcoholics that have touched my life. Her Lifestyle blog “Follow Your Bliss” ( is a female-friendly, positive online community for women (but men are welcome too!
He convinced me I was special and different and I was so desperate to get out of my house, that I shacked up with him and his mother in a two-bedroom apartment in Canoga Park.He was the first alcoholic man, in a string of men and women, who would fill my dating diary. For better or for worse, there is a comfort and familiarity in the inner workings of an alcoholic that doesn’t exist with others. • Alcoholics feel constantly criticized and fear being controlled.• Don’t try to boss around an alcoholic.• You can’t make somebody stop drinking. (Read that several times if you need to.)• Your phone calls/texts/emails will go unanswered, unreturned and ignored if an alcoholic is overwhelmed, overworked or feels unappreciated.• If an alcoholic cannot handle the topic of conversation, they will ignore it (and you).• Alcoholics tend to be self-centered and self-obsessed and immature.• Their egos are strong.After nearly 15 years of dating, fucking and loving alcoholics, this is what I’ve come to know about the subject:• Alcoholics believe they are the biggest piece of shit that the world revolves around. Stronger than your best intentions.• Alcoholics fear they are not going to live up to your fantasy of them.• Alcoholics fear failure…Just to be safe, I tend to abstain from alcohol for the most part.My boyfriend was violent and angry and his family couldn’t stand him. Despite obvious signs that he was cheating on me, including women’s phone numbers in the pockets of his jeans, folded up flyers to strip clubs and the monthly solo road trips he took to San Francisco to “clear his mind,” I simply refused to act on my suspicions. My mind—or the “danger zone” as I liked to call it—was simply not a safe place for me to be without the distraction of a man. I joke that I can find a room filled with 100 people and instantly be drawn to the ones who have a drinking problem.
a lot.• Alcoholics pity themselves.• Alcoholics make empty promises.• Alcoholics lie, cheat & steal.• And they will steal your heart, too.• It’s not always obvious straightaway that you’re dating a drinker.